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It is coming to a point that I am disliking closet cases as much as homophobes. I mean, why is it that within the community, and especially here, no one finds the need to create a better bond between us. Why is it that we are quick to snap at each other and disragard each other. No one has a sense of communtiy, that they relate to a certain person because of orientation and they have thier back. It's like black-on-black crime, it crumbles the community, gives us a bad name, and we don't get anywhere. So much bitching, no doing.
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Ignore them, the only ones they're harming are themselves.
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Tata Botata, at Thursday, March 31, 2005 1:11:00 PM
Sweety,
You’ve got to be kidding? Kuwait is a tiny country, everyone knows everyone else. And coming out is tantamount to career suicide. I’m a recent graduate, and I would kiss my prospects in this place goodbye if I do. Here’s what’ll happen if I come out:
1. Family shamed
2. Father disownes me
3. No job
For all their faults, I love my family, and this country. And it would break my heart to leave it for good. It saddens me that society here is so backward. There’s no way in HELL they’ll understand, not even if you make them sit throught endless QAF screenings, sociology seminars, LGBT meetings .. etc. etc.
Please have a heart. I don’t have a choice.
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kwt_reader, at Thursday, March 31, 2005 8:24:00 PM
Hello 1814...I have been a silent reader for a while...
I think it's very hard to be your total self back home...I have 2 gays cousins and I hear horrible things being said about them...but deep inside I love them and I never judge them for their sexual orientation...I wish I could show more support but it is hard to do that while everyone else is judging...you sure need a lot of strength to be open and I admire that...
I'm more of myself here in the states and I have gay friends who I love to hangout with...but I don't know if I could hangout with them in Kuwait without feeling any restraints!
I do sound like a hypocrite but I'm not, I really wanna be more supportive but I don't know how!
Again I admire you for being open and being yourself…stay strong dear :)
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Jelly Belly, at Friday, April 01, 2005 8:18:00 AM
Tata,
True.
Kwt_reader,
I understand the trials and tribulations of coming out and it's not a fun ride, at first, believe me. But, if we don't take steps, no matter how tiny, then we sulk in our 'shame.' I feel like completely coming out might not be an answer. But finding modes of communication with others like you and supporting other liberal causes are essential. I seem to have a great job intact without while enjoying being out.
Jelly,
same as above. support liberal causes... I didn't know I ad silent readers, thats cool.
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1814, at Friday, April 01, 2005 9:09:00 AM
more and over...
reader, your 1,2,3s are of uge importance to you. But, some people are willing to sacrifice all that to live an honest life. Take it from a person who as been through it, it is the fastest way to know your real friends.
If you wish to lead that kind of life you might as well pull a woman/man into your closet by way of marriage and live your hetty life. What good have you done to your community? Nothing...
jelly,
I am sure hanging out with your gay friends is not that much of a scandal. If you hear horrible things about your beloved ones then act up.
If we were living by the naysayers standards we'd be worse than the taliban by now.
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Liberty was acquired by people who were not afraid to show thier trueness not sideliners.
btw, QAF made me want to crawl back into the closet with it's ludicrous portrayal of gay lives.
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1814, at Friday, April 01, 2005 9:52:00 AM
1814,
People here don't separate the questions of identity and morality. What I mean is this: a gay person is who he is because he’s born that way, it’s genetic. A gay person is not ‘manufactured’ by ‘bad influences’ and ‘corrupt western culture’. A gay person is not gay because of what he does, but of what he is. It’s not a switch in my brain that I can turn off. It’s not a ‘disease’. I can’t ‘fix’ it. And there’s nothing TO fix.
People here don’t understand that.
Also how stupid and naive can people be when they group EVERYTHING that's not strictly hetero –bi, trans, … whatever- as "Jins Thaleth." a stupid and hurtful term that doesn’t MEAN anything.
This comes simply out of ignorance, not innate hatred or anything. They simply haven’t seen it! It’s so rare!! It becomes sensational and sells yellow newspapers that associate it with decay, drugs and moral decrepitude. There’s so much ignorance out there.
Be heartened. The %10 is out there.
Also, with regards to the ‘hetty’ life. I will NEVER, EVER do that. It’s dishonest, shameful, and unfair to the partner. My options are limited (stay single) but at least that’s an honest way of life.
I’m sorry if that was a bit long. But as you can see it’s a thorny subject.
Btw, I agree, QAF is rather silly. I noticed you've seen ‘Get Real,’ a movie I adore! Check out ‘beautiful thing’ and ‘All over the guy’
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kwt_reader, at Friday, April 01, 2005 6:22:00 PM
1814,
“Liberty was acquired by people who were not afraid to show thier trueness not sideliners.”
If I may add, I am not ashamed of who am I. It’s simply the very real outcome of being outcast, as I’ve outlined. I do however object to being characterized as a sideliner. We must crawl before we leap. I try to educate whomever I meet whenever the subject comes up. What you may see as cowardice I call patience and level-headedness. Acceptance won’t be reached overnight.
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kwt_reader, at Friday, April 01, 2005 7:23:00 PM
Last thing I want is to get the hetty's acceptance. I am just opting for a live-and-let-live situation which is a basic human right. My blog wasn't for thier acceptance as I disagree with 80% of what this society does on a daily basis.
I was asking my fellow liberals and LGBT people to unite and help each other out. The conservatives help each other out. The beardos are all in unison. Why is it that we never do that but bitch and moan on the situation. Most likely a gay guy will hiss at another one then relate. Why is that. I guess we are together in that, to bad there's no visibilty.
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I love Beautiful Thing and just got All Over The Guy, can't bring myself to watch it. The L Word is taking up all my time.
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Glad to see that my people are reading my blog, I hope it is speaking of what they can't speak of.
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1814, at Friday, April 01, 2005 7:33:00 PM
that sux for u... but u knw what i dont think its just a gay thing... all communities in q8 are kinda like that... they all hiss at each other rather then unite... maybe? i dont know seems that way to me?
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Q8's Biggest Loser, at Saturday, April 02, 2005 1:37:00 AM
I think you should do whatever makes YOU comfortable even it means staying in the closet...Simple, but the major community problem is the complicated thing, which is not about sexuality at all...
And I did not like QAF at alll
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Alexis, at Saturday, April 02, 2005 8:02:00 PM
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